Planning the perfect surprise party for your wife

Surprises are one of the biggest and most fun ways to celebrate a milestone. Not only are they exciting for a visiting husband who knows what is going to happen, but also touching for a woman whose husband has taken the time to plan something special for her!

Here are the steps you can take to create a successful surprise party for your wife:

Step 1: Plan a Surprise


  • At home: This is the easiest option, but you need to make sure your wife is out and everyone arrives early and parks far away. The lights should not be extinguished and the shoes hidden.
  • In the office: She will have to get your wife out of her desk. You can do this by inviting the manager to a meeting, or you or a colleague bring her out for lunch. Surprise can happen at her desk or in the meeting room.
  • Restaurant / Hotel: You must give your wife a good reason to go there so that she is not suspicious. Make sure you also know that the restaurant or hotel knows it's a surprise!

When: You want to choose a day and time suitable for all your guests and when you know that your wife has no other plans. It is better if the surprise party is a few days before / after the turning day, so your wife will not expect anything or be suspicious.

Party type: Whether it is a birthday, anniversary or retirement, the type of party should be considered in the planning process. You should choose a topic that addresses this opportunity. (For example, the birthday of the 50th surprise may have a 50s theme.)

Invite Guests: The invitation should show the details of the event and really focus on the fact that it is a surprise. Your invitation may also include gift suggestions.

Find a caper: distraction from your wife is a key element of surprise. It can be you, a relative, friend or colleague. It is important to make sure that your wife is firmly committed to activities (can be a manicure, a movie, coffee) and time (know exactly how much time will pass so that the caper doesn't have to make excuses and delays.)

Step 2: Adjust

Decoration: You may not have much time in advance to decorate for a party, so as soon as your wife leaves with your chosen caperan, you and your friends can set up and decorate. If the party is at a restaurant or hotel, you can probably start preparing in advance. You can have balloons, streamers, candles, flowers, photos, noise making devices, etc. If you are organizing a themed surprise party, then you should decorate accordingly. For example, lots of red, flowers and hearts at a jubilee party.

Food & Drink: You can host or make your own food to offer to your guests if the fun overlaps with lunch or dinner. Even if you don't serve a meal, you should have snacks and drinks available. You can get snacks that are easy to make, like chips and vegetables with sandwiches or party guides. You can also set up a bar or hire a bartender. No party is complete without cake. Getting your wife's favorite type is the best option.

Music & Entertainment: Choose music that all your guests will enjoy. One has to be optimistic but not intrusive. You can have a slide show in the background, if the location allows, with pictures and messages from friends and family. You can also rent entertainment, such as musicians or magicians. You can even bake which is always fun.

Step 3: Surprise

Have a checklist: Go through the list of things to do and reminders to make sure you don't forget anything, for example: food, decorations, make sure people are parked away, music picked, entertainment confirmed.

Lure your wife to the party: Be sure your captain is on schedule. It’s a good idea to call the captain to call you or send you an SMS when they are a few minutes away to make sure the lights are off, everyone is quiet and ready to shout a surprise.

Take lots of photos: Make sure some guests have a camera in their hand to capture your wife's initial reaction. Have a friend play a certain photographer or encourage your guests to post pictures all night long.

The hardest part about having a surprise party is keeping it a secret. The best way to plan a surprise party and ensure that no one approaches you is to plan a surprise party online. You can send an email invitation to all your guests with a link to the surprise website, where guests can RSVP online. This will avoid having to worry about your wife having heard the phone message or looked at the answer card. By creating a party website for their husband, guests can see all the details of the party and offer their comments on the topic, food, decor and music using online polls and message boards. The website will be a private communications hub where guests can talk amongst themselves, with no chance for your wife to hear anything. They will also inform guests about the captain’s plan and how important it is to get on time and park far away. A gift registry, with details or a link to your wife's favorite store, can be found on the website for great gift ideas. Pictures and videos can also be posted on the website before and after the party. It will also be great to show his wife a website after the surprise so she can see all the planning and messages from friends and family.

Remember the following to surprise your wife's fun:

  • Don't talk about surprise parties and curse your guests with secrecy. You never know who's around and listening, so you don't need to talk to anyone.
  • Never send a call by mail (if an address error is returned to the sender) or leave your home number as a contact number (do not have your wife listen to voicemail.) All communications should be made in person, on a mobile or office phone or via email. (Make sure you enter your private contact information)
  • Tell your close friends and family your plan, even before you send them an invitation, so that they can be made available and guarantee that there will be no time / date conflict with your spouse. They can also make suggestions and help you plan the fun.